Comments on: Hot Button: Failed Relationships

By: Walt Ciechanowski

Walt Ciechanowski — Wed, 26 Oct 2011 16:36:11 +0000

@emiliaemilia – I replied to your comment here:

http://www.gnomestew.com/tools-for-gms/french-vanilla-or-mint-mocha-fleshing-out-your-character

By: Martin Ralya

Martin Ralya — Fri, 03 Sep 2010 02:08:21 +0000

@Silveressa - We leave them open on purpose, in case folks come by after the thread has died -- even long after! -- with something to share. Welcome to the Stew!

By: Silveressa

Silveressa — Thu, 02 Sep 2010 23:14:39 +0000

Gah! Just saw this thread was form back in 2k9, apologies for the necroing!

By: Silveressa

Silveressa — Thu, 02 Sep 2010 23:13:49 +0000

Like others have said, as long as the ex-lovers involved can keep their out of games issues out of the game and still play together nicely they can stay. If there's a problem whichever one seems to be the instigator would be asked to leave if they can't control themselves. (or both if it seems they both have issues) It'd be hard to do it any other way without jeopardizing friendships.

By: Lunatyk

Lunatyk — Sat, 07 Nov 2009 20:38:18 +0000

Who are you referring to? do kogo przemawiasz Emilio?

By: emiliaemilia

emiliaemilia — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 17:55:43 +0000

man, i don't know how to contact with you. reply on my email ( milka.emilka@buziaczek.pl ) or i'll have to do somethig more. if you don't remember - you stole my pic!

By: Lunatyk

Lunatyk — Mon, 26 Oct 2009 09:51:06 +0000

Fortunately, I never had this problem but if I did, the answer seems simple. The group is composed of friends, if there is a falling out between people they have to decide either to put their differences away or the one (might be both) who is causing the problems has to leave... if not, then I'm gone...

By: HVL

HVL — Sat, 24 Oct 2009 18:51:28 +0000

Had this happen in our group. Making them both still play once the dust settled was the best descion we ever made. They're now still really good freinds and don't hold grudges or anything and both bring their new significant others to games and play alongside.

By: Kurt "Telas" Schneider

Kurt "Telas" Schneider — Sat, 24 Oct 2009 03:29:35 +0000

I'd allow the couple to stay as long as they could keep their reality out of my fantasy. I'd tell them this, of course. And if they failed to do so, I'd give one warning, and then that's it; they're both gone. Either could come back after a reasonable period and a promise to behave. However, if one of them left of their own accord, I wouldn't boot the other one. And I'd be sure tell the rest of the group about this loophole.

By: Katherine

Katherine — Sat, 24 Oct 2009 00:09:37 +0000

I've seen this happen in a few groups and games I've been in. I'm echoing above sentiment, the group comes first. If there's too much drama they should both go. People have to be grown up enough to handle their business outside. The flip side of this is the relationship that blooms inside of the group and it effects game play with jealousy, changing a character to be closer to your sworn enemy because you're with them now and other crazy developments that don't make a lick of sense in game.

By: Athzar

Athzar — Fri, 23 Oct 2009 19:30:19 +0000

I'd let them both in the game as long as they didn't harm the group; it'd be silly to kick them out just because of OOG (out-of-game) issues if it doesn't make things awkward. Now if it was problematic for everyone else then that's something else entirely.

By: Lucivious

Lucivious — Fri, 23 Oct 2009 18:01:57 +0000

I've had this happen, but not in my own games. In a game I was playing in the GM and one of the players broke up. It pretty much caused the entire group to fall apart.

By: Scott Martin

Scott Martin — Thu, 22 Oct 2009 17:43:52 +0000

I haven't experienced this (thankfully). I'd let them stay if they assured us that they could treat each other well and keep the drama from infecting the group. (No "choose sides" games.) It'd be a short leash, which I'm not comfortable with or used to using, but letting them spin into a frenzy would be destructive to everyone.

By: Brent

Brent — Thu, 22 Oct 2009 16:39:49 +0000

I agree with Matthew Neagley. If they want to play, neither is psychotic, and spots are available, I think it's part of my job to fit them into the game. If they're toxic to the group during play, then that's just as much a reason to remove them as any other kind of toxic player.

By: Swordgleam

Swordgleam — Thu, 22 Oct 2009 15:19:52 +0000

This hasn't happened to me yet and hopefully won't happen, but I think I'd handle it the same as any other players who had personal issues. If they can get along at the table, great. If they can't, they need to figure out a way to be civil to each other. Whoever has the most trouble maintaining their civility is out. If neither of them can handle it, they're both out.