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A Primer on Politeness

In honor of GM’s Day, I’d like to help out the beleaguered GMs out there with some universal advice on how to be polite. Players, this applies to you, too!

The Golden Rule: Treat others as you would have them treat you. There’s a reason this formula shows up in almost every human culture.

Some general guidelines:

Disagreements are inevitable, especially at a gaming table. But when it comes to disagreement, don’t be disagreeable. Some pointers on how to resolve a disagreement and still remain friends:

Feel free to send this link to anyone who needs it. One of my crusades is to banish the reputation of gamers as rude and argumentative social misfits, and to do that, we first need to put our own house in order.

About  Kurt "Telas" Schneider

Kurt Schneider played D&D in 1979 at summer camp, and was hooked. He lives with his wife, daughters, and dog in Austin TX, where he writes stuff, and tries to stay get fit. Look for his rants under the nom de web Telas or TelasTX. Quote: “A game is only as balanced – or as good – as the GM."



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6 Comments To "A Primer on Politeness"

#1 Comment By Scott Martin On March 4, 2009 @ 3:29 pm

The discussion points are particularly good and could stand some repeating. Thanks for writing them down for discussion.

#2 Comment By chabuhi On March 4, 2009 @ 3:39 pm

It still stuns me that any adult should need to read this. Yet, stunned I am and on a fairly regular basis.

#3 Comment By troy812 On March 5, 2009 @ 10:24 am

Yea you guys!
Read UP!

Sheesh!

Funny but so true.

Actually this would be a nice little article to put in any convention booklet.

#4 Comment By Tony Graham On March 5, 2009 @ 11:13 am

I’m lucky, I typically see these rules followed around the gaming table. It’s the workplace that needs this posting. I suspect most workplaces could use this posting (less the GenCon, GM & burst references).

#5 Comment By Martin Ralya On March 7, 2009 @ 11:45 am

Great article, Telas. This is a worthy crusade. 😉

@troy812 – GenCon (the only con I’ve attended in a long, long time) puts some of these guidelines in their event book — I particularly remember the ones about showering and deodorant. And I have to say, while there’s still a distinct GenCon funk every year, it’s a lot better these days than it was in the late ’90s.

#6 Comment By Yax – DungeonMastering.com On March 17, 2009 @ 3:19 pm

“Smile. It puts your friends at ease and freaks the hell out of you enemies.”

What do you mean “you enemies”. I’m your enemy? Better watch your back Telas! I’m coming for you.

Note: I love tyops.